A little background about me before I achieved faithful peace of mind.
My disability was caused by traumatic levels of insecurity. The insecurities I had stemmed from my being thought of as weak, as being a target for a bully and bullies, as being thought of as ineligible for having a relationship that I dreamed of having with a woman that I would love deeply. I thought of ideals in those days. I thought of how I had no plan for getting out of the bullying. I thought of how, in turn, I was unable to be the hero I wanted to be to myself and others, to make a difference in the world, and to achieve a romantic level of relationship that I thought I would have to have in order to compensate.
I know now that relationships have potential to be at the perfect heavenly romantic level by what you make of them, not just by who you're trying to impress, a key point in my maturity. Another point in maturing was in realizing that my sensitive and loving nature that made me a target wasn't going to be a weakness that would stay with me as an adult, but would be a strength that would help me stand out of the crowd as valuable and worthy of being loved, though all of us deserve love.
I learned to communicate and to be confident enough in myself and my value as a life in order to be able to have a relationship. I learned the value of compassion and of contributing one's share in many ways. I learned most of all the power of having faith in myself and firstly in God that put faith in me, such that I was able to trust it would all work out no matter what happened, toward a greater plan and God's control.
[See: "a willingness to face what we usually don’t want to face." https://zenhabits.net/insecurities/
Let my paraphrase and adapt their assessment of insecurities...
Overcome obstacles of:
criticism from others
criticism from self (habitual)
feeling that you need other's approval or to be thought well of (idolizing people)
Lacking trust (lacking faith in God's plan)
comparing self to ideals around us or in society (instead of comparing self to past self and seeing what one can do better)
rejecting ourselves (instead of accepting our weaknesses and strengths)
The obstacles are overcome by:
Forgiving and accepting yourself
Be your own one that you need approval from in your choices and existence (or seek approval from the unconditional God that loves you no matter what and recognize that love through you)
Don't compare yourself or others for that's a sin and that's never an accurate assessment. One's strengths and weaknesses should be accepted with on one's own definition, unique as each of us are, such that we work with ourselves in what we are and do, not working with what others want.
Have faith that the moment we are in, past, present, future, are part of God's plan in which all is Good. That is why they say "God is Good, all the time, all the time, God is Good."
When I actually take time to look back at where I was, and what I dreamed in the distance but never thought possible, I see that God has made those dreams happen for me and those around me.
I have remembered when I thought that having my voice heard to others wouldn't happen... then I wrote poetry in my own magazine and in books, and read in Open Mic readings.
I have remembered when I thought that I would always be alone since I didn't know how to start (or later to be in) a relationship... then I prayed and was answered meeting the love of my life.
I have remembered when I thought that I would never get married... then I was brought into that stability with my now-wife, in a Catholic faith that brings me such heavenly peace.
I have remembered when I thought that I would never be at rest inside from the worries and from the disturbances that plagued my youth... then I was granted that peace with the wishes that I gave up to God, in such amazing blessing that it transformed everything that life meant to me.
Life is a series of fortunate events when you put your faith in God.
We don't realize that we undervalue things so much.
We are surrounded by environments that make up life, in which we can Christianize them with perfect peace, or else we will be weakened by the environmental sins around us.
A little mistake is not to be worried about, it's all in God's great plan, just try to reaffirm that you can change those mistakes as soon as you recognize that they are mistakes, for they are indeed changeable and you do not have to commit yourself in order to prove yourself right when you are in fact wrong... it doesn't work that way!
On another thing, we've grown up with love and life as with "something to prove," in which we are convinced of our own view's correct nature, and passionate about anything we decide upon. This changes in life only in the decisions we make and in how we change those decisions upon information, the feelings we have about life, and our values.
Donald R. Anderson. Aspiring writer. Amateur philosopher and amateur writer of Apologetics (i.e., the Catholic reasonings). Faith-driven kindred spirit.