A little background about me before I achieved faithful peace of mind.
My disability was caused by traumatic levels of insecurity. The insecurities I had stemmed from my being thought of as weak, as being a target for a bully and bullies, as being thought of as ineligible for having a relationship that I dreamed of having with a woman that I would love deeply. I thought of ideals in those days. I thought of how I had no plan for getting out of the bullying. I thought of how, in turn, I was unable to be the hero I wanted to be to myself and others, to make a difference in the world, and to achieve a romantic level of relationship that I thought I would have to have in order to compensate.
I know now that relationships have potential to be at the perfect heavenly romantic level by what you make of them, not just by who you're trying to impress, a key point in my maturity. Another point in maturing was in realizing that my sensitive and loving nature that made me a target wasn't going to be a weakness that would stay with me as an adult, but would be a strength that would help me stand out of the crowd as valuable and worthy of being loved, though all of us deserve love.
I learned to communicate and to be confident enough in myself and my value as a life in order to be able to have a relationship. I learned the value of compassion and of contributing one's share in many ways. I learned most of all the power of having faith in myself and firstly in God that put faith in me, such that I was able to trust it would all work out no matter what happened, toward a greater plan and God's control.
[See: "a willingness to face what we usually don’t want to face." https://zenhabits.net/insecurities/
Let my paraphrase and adapt their assessment of insecurities...
Overcome obstacles of:
criticism from others
criticism from self (habitual)
feeling that you need other's approval or to be thought well of (idolizing people)
Lacking trust (lacking faith in God's plan)
comparing self to ideals around us or in society (instead of comparing self to past self and seeing what one can do better)
rejecting ourselves (instead of accepting our weaknesses and strengths)
The obstacles are overcome by:
Forgiving and accepting yourself
Be your own one that you need approval from in your choices and existence (or seek approval from the unconditional God that loves you no matter what and recognize that love through you)
Don't compare yourself or others for that's a sin and that's never an accurate assessment. One's strengths and weaknesses should be accepted with on one's own definition, unique as each of us are, such that we work with ourselves in what we are and do, not working with what others want.
Have faith that the moment we are in, past, present, future, are part of God's plan in which all is Good. That is why they say "God is Good, all the time, all the time, God is Good."
Donald R. Anderson. Aspiring writer. Amateur philosopher and amateur writer of Apologetics (i.e., the Catholic reasonings). Faith-driven kindred spirit.