Some rules... or, if you prefer, guidelines.
Each decision we make is either more positive or more negative. That is true of financial decisions AND of anything regarding our relationships with each other and with God.
In relationships with people, (and with God,) the most important thing is to understand the other person, otherwise one is misunderstanding them. In order to single-task focus on listening to the other person (or to God) without focusing on one's self, without focusing on one's reply, without focusing on one's own feelings or thoughts or needs, without focusing on the situation around you. In other words, just focus on trying to UNDERSTAND what it is that the other person is thinking and feeling, from their end, in their shoes. Do not even evaluate what they are feeling or thinking, just try and listen to it while sitting back and taking it all in. That is the art of feminine communication which needs to be taught to all human beings and become a more universal tongue for us to know each other deeper and to understand what it is we want to say.
There is a question we all should be asking ourselves, which will lead us to the discernment between positive and negative.
Donald R. Anderson. Aspiring writer. Amateur philosopher and amateur writer of Apologetics (i.e., the Catholic reasonings). Faith-driven kindred spirit.