I once used to think that facing one's inevitable mortality, when it came close enough to count time left, was about knowing that you didn't regret any of the decisions you made, because you had to make them and accepted them as done.
While that makes sense, it makes even more sense for there to be regrets that you learned from which would have been done differently, some of which are also even humorous and can give a perspective leap of appreciation, all three of which are positive aspects taken only because of the regret. However those are benefits one could (and might prefer to) live without if one chose one's own fate...if one were to live without making the mistakes, according to one's own will and plan. What one then would need to face mortality, is to accept one is going to meet the maker and be able to, if it still matters to us after, be able to hear the reasons for the bigger plan that we are in, and appreciate that we know just little bits of that puzzle we can guess at. What is life, after all, if not mysterious?
Secondly, for the younger years I thought that mankind was about community, about working together because it makes more impact, and about finding one that one can team up with and share life with. I thought, in fact, that one like me had to be unhappy because of the time I had in solitude waiting for a meaningful relationship to form. My later relationship fulfilled my greatest expectations, perhaps because I appreciated it so much, but if a person were to choose solitude in religious and spiritual organizations I feel that contentment is possible in that community too, for I would choose to enter one should my wife ever pass away before me (something I fear sometimes), one could still be as content and fulfilled through the closeness of appreciation a relationship with God.
Thirdly, I've reflected on the famous quote by Descartes, and want to share something I've concluded that seems more in tune with our definitions in English. Reality (stating that something is true and existing) equals experience (some of the senses) combining with one's thoughts (the way one interprets those senses, our perspective). Therefore, part of reality is objective, while part of reality is subjective. When we deal with it we cannot separate the objective part from the subjective part entirely, though we can change what the subjective part is with more subjective thoughts over time, for better or worse. I assume my own perspective has improved with time, but perhaps that is part of the relative perspective.
Donald R. Anderson. Aspiring writer. Amateur philosopher and amateur writer of Apologetics (i.e., the Catholic reasonings). Faith-driven kindred spirit.