I'd once always wanted to refuse John Lennon's line "There are no problems, only solutions," when I heard it sung. There were times when I wanted to be strong as Gandhi, or Nelson Mandela, in their resolve and patience to change the world. There were times when I would wish I had the relationship that was in perfect harmony without arguments and brief separations--now I've resolved those issues for the most part, as much as any human can. I realized a fundamental truth.
If I don't have inner peace, if I'm not happy with all of my circumstances in my worldly life, then I have no one to blame but myself.
We don't control other people, or even the things that happen, and can never expect to. To attempt to do so is insanity, and the source of all unhappiness, all problems, and all arguments.
So the solution is to simply accept everything we cannot change, like that old adage from ages old, that serenity prayer. If we ask God to grant us the wisdom, and simply realize that we cannot change anything around us, we can only change that Man In The Mirror (as Michael Jackson put it), then we will achieve happiness and all that we could ever hope for, because we have at that point let go of worldly purposes that are futile, and given ourselves fully to the spiritual purpose--that God has us in His great plan and that we just need to take that leap of faith and trust in it, and move on.
Donald R. Anderson. Aspiring writer. Amateur philosopher and amateur writer of Apologetics (i.e., the Catholic reasonings). Faith-driven kindred spirit.